You’ve been cheated?
Some people claim that
an affair should always
end a relationship. But
I disagree. I believe that
every relationship can be
salvaged if both parties
really want to work on it.
Restoring trust in relationships
requires an adjustment in
attitude and actions. Even
after an affair, it is possible
to save a relationship.
There may be something at
the relationship’s
core that is diseased. But
you can heal the disease.
What was it that he was
looking for when he strayed?
Was the sex humdrum? Were
you too busy for him? Were
you just not spending enough
time on your grooming?
He wouldn’t have
had an affair if the primary
relationship was perfect.
So, what needs to be done
to fix it? Often that lies
in self analysis. But just
as often, that lies in the
couple’s relationship.
Restoring
trust in relationships means
fixing the underlying problems.
Sometimes that means going
into couples counseling.
But just understanding
our thoughts isn’t
enough. The next step is
to take concrete action
in fixing the problems.
Finally, you need to put
a positive spin on the incident.
Treat it as an opportunity
for both of you to grow
as individuals and for the
relationship to mature.
Just as a bone grows stronger
at the place it has been
broken, a relationship can
improve after an affair.
Restoring trust in a relationship
takes time. It requires
that you change both your
attitudes and actions. But
it is possible to heal the
divide and be a stronger
couple as a result.
This is just the first
step to save your marriage.
Do you want to take further
actions? If you seriously
want to save your marriage,
you should read Save My
Marriage—this is a
fascinating e-book written
by prominent psychologist
Amy Waterman.
Who
Is Amy Waterman?
Amy Waterman has extensive
experience in helping thousands
of people re-establish love
with her insightful and
powerful secrets into attracting
love and making relationships
work.
Over the years she has helped
thousands of men and women
fix their marriages and
unhappy relationships.
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